Having a romantic relationship with the opposite sex is one of the nicest experiences that you could ever have. It creates a sense of fulfillment knowing that you are capable of reciprocating the love that is given to you. It also creates a certain happiness that allows you to stay inspired and motivated in everything that you do.
However, a relationship that brings stress and tension for the couple is a different story, particularly when the other person has anxiety disorder. This behavioral problem is most commonly known as relationship obsessive compulsive disorder or Relationship OCD (rOCD). According to a recent study, people with this condition may be less satisfied with their sex lives. This sexual dissatisfaction was classified as a decrease in relationship contentment, which, in turn, affects sex life.
What is Relationship OCD or ROCD?
ROCD is a mental disorder that can occur to anyone. Both men and women can feel this type of psychological problem especially when two people are starting to build a relationship. When you have this condition, one of your obsessions is actually having a perfect relationship. A relationship that has no flaws and you expect that your partner will give you his full attention every time. When one fails to meet the expectations of his or her partner, they tend to doubt their sincerity. That’s where the problem occurs. Your obsessive thinking can lead to distraction and it can ruin your “supposedly” perfect relationship and sex life.
Ways that OCD is interfering with sexual harmony;
- Fear of contamination or too concerned about dreaded diseases caused by sexual contact.
- Fear of impregnating others or becoming pregnant.
- Worrying about their sexual orientation.
- Worrying about having improper sexual desire to someone.
There are a couple of things that you can do to overcome your anxiety. Relationship OCD can be cured as long as you are willing to do your part in resolving the issues that are hindering you from loving or accepting another person.
- You have to acknowledge your fear and accept your shortcomings so it will be easier for you to cope up with your disorder.
- If you are currently in a relationship, it helps if you allow your partner to get involved in the recovery process for them to understand the things that you are going through. Through this, your partner can respond in an optimistic way every time you feel that you are not loved. This enables you two to deal with the problem in a positive way.
- Your family can give you the love and support you need during the most difficult times in your life. Sure, they may be affected with your mood swings but your family will stay beside you no matter what. Communicate with them and let them know about your situation so they will know how they should respond to your needs.
- There are support groups led by certified therapists that you can join and participate with, helping you to recognize and manage rOCD. You can share your thoughts and experience without having to feel any form of rejection since you all sharing the same woes in life.
- Seek professional help if you feel that your disorder is getting worse. A certified therapist can provide you with the best advice as well as the necessary steps that you need to take so you can surpass this phase in your life easier.
Give back the trust and love that your partner deserves. Don’t let this disorder take a toll in your romantic relationship.